There are millions of pages written about how to succeed. Giving personal or business success tips and advice is profitable business for many consultants, coaches, trainers, and the like. I’m going to give you a very simple key to success for free – YOU HAVE NO EXCUSES. That’s it. Sure, I may not have what it takes to be a champion sumo wrestler or top male model (especially being a petite female). However, I believe we all have SOMETHING we’re good at. The problem is, some people haven’t figured out what it is, are pursuing the wrong thing, or just don’t have enough faith, patience, and dedication to be true to themselves and pursue it. Here are my suggestions on how to live a more fulfilled life.
Keys to Success and Happiness
Self-awareness – To find your true calling, you need to be in touch with yourself and what brings you a sense of fulfillment. It may involve helping others, creating something useful or appealing to the senses, fixing/improving things, or expressing creativity. Whatever it is, it’s usually something that puts you in a natural flow with the universe, in which you lose a sense of time and the stresses and cares that plague your mind. I’m not talking about tuning out in front of the tv, but actively doing something you enjoy. If you’re stuck, think back on what you did or hated to do as a small child. That may give you clues about what you are good at, or what you aren’t.
- Quit making money the primary objective. If money is the means AND the end, you won’t be truly happy. Having money is great, but there are plenty of miserable rich people trying to acquire happiness through “things”, only to find them a temporary pleasure that lose their sparkle after a while. Then they’re constantly pursuing the next thing in an attempt to fill the unhappy void that can never truly be filled with things. Happiness is a state of mind, and if you make up your mind to be happy, being broke won’t stop you. Believing “I’ll be happy when (fill in the blank)” sets yourself up to be unhappy. When you’re doing what you’re meant to do, you can find a way to make money doing it.
- Believe in yourself – Lots of now famous people were rejected countless times before becoming successful. Don’t let others define you. You need confidence in yourself, along with the passion and faith, to stay patient and driven toward getting your goals met. I can think of some people that really aren’t “all that” in my opinion, but have been wildly successful at convincing others they are, simply based on how they present themselves.
All of the above relates to my basic advice about the need to stop making excuses. “I don’t have the money to (blank)”, “I’m not (blank) enough”, “I’m not good at (blank)”. These are all excuses. If you think I’m full of crap and need some examples, think about the people with severe physical handicaps who’ve achieve great feats and live happy lives. Watch this video if you need a reminder about the power of a “can do” attitude:
If you still think you have an excuse for not achieving your dreams, please share. I’m good at debating. I’ll be happy to succeed in winning our argument.;-)